Why is it easier for women to hide their bad side during the dating phase?
PortWine asked:
Whether it’s part-time feminism, an abnormally nasty menstrual cycle, or unrealistic expectations, women hide their unsuitable attributes from men during the the dating phase much better than vice versa. Why is this true?
B Dorian, you don’t hear about them because they don’t report it. More than 50% of physical abuse is by women towards men.
Realcooldude, good point.
Whether it’s part-time feminism, an abnormally nasty menstrual cycle, or unrealistic expectations, women hide their unsuitable attributes from men during the the dating phase much better than vice versa. Why is this true?
B Dorian, you don’t hear about them because they don’t report it. More than 50% of physical abuse is by women towards men.
Realcooldude, good point.
From all the stories I hear, it’s the men who hide it better overall. How many abused husbands do you hear about compared to abused wives?
they do it and they are good at it. one thing i can say from experience is that they want to create a good first impression. or at least they try to .
While I don’t agree with your premise and as a woman am insulted by your characterization of feminism as “unsuitable,” I’ll give you an answer:
Women are smarter than men.
In my experience, some men are guilty of doing the same thing.
lol. maybe because they are the one being persued.
I see it so often here in these questions: “Why do women do this?” “Why do men do that?”
WHY can no one seem to identify with the concept that EVERY person - male OR female - is an INDIVIDUAL?
Every vice and every virtue cited in these questions, I have observed in BOTH men AND women - sometimes equally and sometimes even inverse to the porportions quoted in the original question, itself!
PEOPLE (of BOTH genders) have good points and they have bad points.
Since you are obviously a man, and it is women you date, you would NATURALLY be more familiar with the “dating sins” of women. (As a woman who dated men, I have seen the other side of the coin.)
However, we don’t have to limit our observations to our own experiences. I have heard plenty of dating horror stories from male friends and co-workers, and just as many from my fellow females.
In your “additional details” section, you mention that more than 50% of physical abuse is by women toward men. I don’t know where you got that statistic from.
I know there certainly IS such a thing as an “abused husband” - I’ve actually met a few of them. But I’ve met a LOT more abused wives!
While it may be true that an abused man is less likely talk about it, it seems to also be true that abused men are less likely to suffer injuries of sufficient severity to send them to emergency wards, and therefore attract the attention of the authorities. This would seem to translate into the conclusion that whether women physically abuse men as often or not, they apparently do not manage to do nearly as effective a job of it.
Back to your original question about hiding one’s bad side, though, take a look at human behavior beyond just the dating game. Don’t we see the same thing in political candidates all the time?
NOBODY says, “Yeah, I’m greedy and power-hungry and I’ll royally sock it to the public if I’m elected, but vote for me, anyway.” do they?.