Which is easier to spot during the dating phase, a male domestic abuser or a female emotional abuser?

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PortWine asked:


Not which one is worse, which one is easier to spot during dating?

10 comments:

  1. Cassius, 3. July 2008, 23:54

    I would say the female, since she doesnt have to pull punches in public.

     
  2. Bunny Boiler, 4. July 2008, 13:05

    A domestic abuser, man or woman, is worse. Because it means someone is living their life in fear, and could get injured or killed. You get both male and female emotional and physical abusers.

     
  3. Rico Taco, 7. July 2008, 5:35

    All females are emotional abusers… soooo

     
  4. Kimberlee Ann B, 9. July 2008, 4:48

    Both. You must keep your eyes wide open. Don’t go there looking for what you want but what you have right in front of you and you will see all there is to see, there are always signs, which we choose to ignore because our hopes are up so high.

     
  5. shello, 10. July 2008, 5:55

    I would say a female emotional abuser, as she will start sooner than a domestic abuser generally. With her words and actions of manipulation. A male domestic abuser is going to want to lure you in be on his best behavior to get you in to a domestic relationship first. But neither can be detected on looks.

     
  6. Mama oykrasavitsa, 10. July 2008, 11:33

    Female emotional abuser for sure.

     
  7. Johno, 13. July 2008, 15:21

    I would say the male, females will mess your head up over a long time.

     
  8. Derek, 16. July 2008, 19:31

    They are both really easy to spot man.

     
  9. Rainbow, 18. July 2008, 2:03

    You just don’t give up with these negative questions, do you? Don’t assume that only men physically abuse, and only women emotionally abuse.

    Domestic abusers, male or female, do not start out that way. They don’t let their guard down until they know you are in their back pocket.

    Emotional abusers, male or female, start out with passive manipulation, then spiral downward from there.

     
  10. [Rei], 21. July 2008, 4:38

    The gender is irrelevant. Each situation would be different, so I can only speak from what I’ve personally observed.

    Typically though, it’s the emotional abuser that you can see first. I find in case studies, and through relationships of those around me, the domestic abuser’s true ways come forth later in the relationship. The emotional abuser tends to start letting little things slip here & there from the get go.