How far into dating does the girl expect to have sex?

3. July 2008, 5:38 UhrEtiquetteadmin
dating
Hey Sista! Wuz Up? asked:


I just turned 18 so I am starting to date but I don’t know when she will expect to have sex.

Should I wait till she asks or should I start when I take her home from a date.

I don’t want people to think that I’m gay or something so I realize that I need to make the aggressive move.

What should I do? Ever since my first date I always bring a condom just in case. I guess that I’m a little shy though because we have been dating for a couple of months now but no bedroom action has occurred.

What’s wrong with me? Is it bad that I waited so long?

11 comments:

  1. peaceablefruit206, 3. July 2008, 5:44

    If she’s like me, after the two of you say, “I do,” then it would be okay.

     
  2. Lorielle C, 3. July 2008, 16:40

    when it feels rght, it all depends on you and the girl

     
  3. Nine Crimes, 5. July 2008, 12:30

    Sex is over-rated and there are so many things you have to worry about. Don’t do it till you’re married.

     
  4. treytado, 8. July 2008, 3:19

    ask her dont ask us all girls is diffrent

     
  5. Stephi-J, 9. July 2008, 2:52

    My husband and I waited until we were married. If he had tried anything before then, I would have been insulted and felt disrespected.

     
  6. Yak Rider, 10. July 2008, 4:36

    I hope to God you’re not carrying that condom in your wallet. The heat and pressure of being folded in there is almost sure to cause microscopic leaks.

    As a novel concept, why not just wait until you are married?

     
  7. Feis Ort, 12. July 2008, 23:10

    If you make aggressive move, she think that the only thing your after. Why are you rushing things? It all about you in your question. You never mention anything about emotions in this. Just what you want, and your needed etc.

     
  8. super_deformed_girl, 14. July 2008, 0:59

    Some time when you are just sitting around, watching TV, or hanging out: ask her what she thinks.

    Don’t put any pressure on her, just ask her what she thinks of sex. If you have been dating for a few months, you should feel comfortable asking her a few personal questions. Ask her if she has ever had sex and if she would be interested in doing it with you.

    If you are not mature enough to ask these questions, and think you should just dive right in, then you are not ready.

     
  9. eateverywhale, 16. July 2008, 8:56

    Bring up the subject in a unique way. This one is sure to work. Place a condom inside a card and give it to her. She’ll be happy when she sees the card and when she opens the card and the condom drops in her lap, she’ll know how to thank you for that card.

     
  10. Rainey, 18. July 2008, 3:29

    there’s nothing wrong with taking your time and unfortunately there is not a set time between all women as to when we want to start having sex.

    some wait until marriage, some like aggressive men, and some women like sex on the first date. try dating her for awhile and get a feel for what she wants. kissing can indicate where things are going, if she seems to enjoy that a lot try to move your hand/body in more sexual places lol

    good luck

     
  11. stevemeister, 20. July 2008, 10:58

    Who cares if you’re gay. I’m sick and tired of people thinking I’m straight or something!

    BTW… you’re a big MO