How do you get passed the weirdness when your parents start dating after getting divorced?
jaime
My parents got divorced a year ago. My mom has not wanted to date at all. but my dad has been dating the entire divorce. I have finally met my dads current, long term girl friend. I like her and shes really nice, but at the same time i dont know how to feel about this. its so weird to see him with someone other than my mom. and i feel disloyal to my mom as well. has anyone been in this situation? how’d you handle it?
My parents got divorced a year ago. My mom has not wanted to date at all. but my dad has been dating the entire divorce. I have finally met my dads current, long term girl friend. I like her and shes really nice, but at the same time i dont know how to feel about this. its so weird to see him with someone other than my mom. and i feel disloyal to my mom as well. has anyone been in this situation? how’d you handle it?
I have. It was slightly weird at first, but because I liked her, it was easier to feel happy for them and I was the bridesmaid at their wedding and even agreed to let them go an live in Canada together. It shouldn’t take long to get over it as long as you like her.
Same situation, except my mom is doing the dating. I haven’t gotten over it, and it’s almost been five years since the divorce. I just can’t stand any guy who is near my mother, because I feel like throwing up at the thought of her being close to anyone.
I haven’t gotten over it, I doubt anyone can. You can get used to the people he dates, if he dates the same person steadily. But you can’t feel close to them as you do with your real mother.
you and your mum will allways be tight.
Stats prove that even sons move towards moms.In marital Domestics.
Mum will understand that all kids love both mum and dad, and only the selfish and destructive ask from their kids otherwise.
Your in the drivers seat,let them see that but remember they still hurt for each other.
Draw on your freinds but don`t shut dad out,he`s most probably thinking right now that because your moms(mums)daughter that you`ll take her side,but he is dating to cope with the loss of your mom.
Just be there for him when mum finds someone,it`s male pigheadiness to find a new freind when they`ve been rejected ,but it will hit him hard.
And on the other hand mom needs to be happy to.
Girl, lemme tell ya’, I know EXACTLY where you’re at with this….but in my case it wasn’t divorce….my dad died 9 years ago. Mom recently met and started dating a very cool guy…but it’s still SO WEIRD!!! In order to stop feeling disloyal to my dead father I started to put the shoe on the other foot….imagining myself in my mother’s place and feeling lonely, miserable for close to 10 years…all at a relatively young age. That’s when it hit me. People really don’t change that much after age 25…we still need love and companionship. If my mom can find someone that loves her and fills those needs then good for her!! I’d do the same damned thing too. The hard part is thinking of your parents as people, not parents….really tough but you eventually get used to it. Keep an open mind, never take sides and put a bit of “welcome” in your heart….you now have an “extended family” and if y’all get along then thats all the better. At the end of the day patience, understanding and time (I’m talking a couple of years!) will allow you to wrap your head around this…you WILL get used to it. Also, keep it zipped around your folks, your opinion is important to them, and if the people they hook up with are genuine you wouldn’t want to spoil their happiness at all. You can deal, it gets easier. Much luck !