I am the oldest of four children and I am 15, 16 in september. How do I go about asking my dad when I can start dating? No one has asked me yet, but I have the feeling that someone will soon!
any good dad won’t want you dating even when you are.
misscarinne, 6. September 2008, 5:35
Casually suggest to your dad you think someone will be asking you out soon… See how he responds.
Dusty, 7. September 2008, 1:56
The sooner the better.
Miza, 8. September 2008, 14:05
More than likey he’ll tell you.. I’m not sure, but my mother had talked to me about it a while back.
When he starts a convo about relationships you can ask him something like, “Do you think I’m old enough to date?”
NAQ, 9. September 2008, 8:34
“dad im getting a little older now and im starting to get a bit curious about dating. not that i want to date or have anyone in mind but i just wanted to know when you think the appropriate age is for me to start? dont worry i will always be your little girl :)”
just like that
spork88@sbcglobal.net, 11. September 2008, 4:12
ether wait until some one else asks or bring up the you met some one that was cool and that u want to go to the movies with him…
jrgannapolis, 12. September 2008, 0:39
It sounds like you are of age now. Dad probably won’t like it until after you’re 30. I would ask your mom and she can relay the info or just say that you are going on a “group” date and see how he responds.
tania s, 12. September 2008, 0:59
just start dating and introduce him to your first boyfriend..he’ll get the message because face it..no dad is EVER ready for his daughter to date.
DAVID C, 15. September 2008, 9:55
You will always be your daddy’s first little girl. Just ask him when the situation arises, but do not ask him until then. If the guy really cares he will have no problem meeting your dad.
VN33, 15. September 2008, 21:47
Just tell your dad that you will wash his car. It’ll work. No man will pass that up. Then you will have a great chance of dating.
vanessaannehudgens, 17. September 2008, 6:09
This question is not that hard. I’m allowed to date when im 15 and three quarters. I asked when I was 11. Just ask him. What’s the worst that can happen.
Terry L, 17. September 2008, 15:38
I would ask him straight out. Fathers like it when you are COMPLETELY honest. He will know that you are interested in starting to date, so he will give the best advice possible, knowing that you trust him by asking him upfront.
So just ask him outright. No beating around the bush or asking him in indirect manners.
haydae24, 19. September 2008, 15:53
Just say. “Hey dad, If I was asked out on a date, would you let me go?” and see what his response would be.
TIffany, 20. September 2008, 3:48
“Dad, at what age do you feel that it would be appropiate for me to start being involved with someone of the opposite sex?”(or same sex, if you go that way!)
or
“Dad, when can I start dating? There is this guy i know, and I think he might ask me out.”
formal and mature, or casual and almost sarcastic…either is sure to get an answer out of him. If that doesnt work, resort to bribery.
Good Luck
gloriousnina, 21. September 2008, 11:10
I would suggest that you do it while there are no interruptions and somewhere quiet. You could start by explaining that you are getting older and think that you are ready to start dating , then ask how he feels about it.
casapulla, 24. September 2008, 4:44
Don’t waste your time — believe it or not, your dad is right. Dating/men at this point in your life (although other girls around you think it’s #1) is an absolute WASTE of your time, energy, thoughts & hopes. Want immediate proof — just check out all the women, single mothers, moms scoping teen boys, etc. right on here, on Yahoo Answers everyday.. that’s what ultimately happens to 15yr girls that are not focused and don’t achieve… they’re unhappy and troll the internet all day (even if they’re married, of course).
Best advice: stay friends with boys, while reading & writing & studying 10x as hard as you do now.. because as you excel later on (and you will, if you get your priorities straight) the guys will line UP for you, believe me. There’s NOTHING more attractive than a women that knows what she’s going, is well-educated and wants to run/start a family (that has a deep sense of family, thanks to HER father, etc.).
mizmead, 25. September 2008, 12:11
Now is the time…BEFORE you have someone you want to date. Don’t ask him during the ball game or the evening news. Ask for a little Father/Daughter time (baking him cookies and having some ice cold milk might break the ice). Ask him what his goals are for you when you start dating. Ask his opinion on dating. Ask him what type of boys he would choose for you.
The point is…make sure he knows his approval is important and that you want him to be a part of your life as you make the important choices that come with maturity. It will make all the difference in the world!
IOLA, 26. September 2008, 17:11
Just ask to talk to him alone, chances are you will get a better reaction if its not with everyone else around and when he just walks in the door or something. Then just say it, tell him you will be responsible, and make it sincere. And if he says no, don’t blow up, express your feelings maturely and he may change his mind. And my husband and I have already agreed 16 for our girls, I may let them a couple months early like you are. Just be honest and don’t get bratty about it.
jrsangel81250, 26. September 2008, 19:41
just wait til some one askes no reason to piss him off if you don’t need to and rush things….if you already have the date he can’t really make your cancel it and if he trys cry, crying always worked for me against daddie lol
sophisticated female ♥, 28. September 2008, 17:57
Dad…how do you feel about me dating? I think I am old enough to date now. I am responsible (dont know if you are) and I will not do anything to disrespect you, the family or myself…..
Also you have to think about the way your father talks about you being with a boy…for example when there are other boys around does he pull you away from the boys to come closer to him or does he let you be near the boys..that way you can see whether or not your dad is comfortable with you being around boys…also another thing is whatever you do, do not disrepect yourself in anyway…meaning that because people (your friends) all have boyfriends doesnt mean you need to have one either..that is up to you..and dont make yourself seem cheap..meaning dont throw yourself at everyone that is near you…
Also
when that boy (you think is about to ask you out soon)….finally ask you out..let him know that you are going to have to think about it…dont say yes right away when you know that your dad didnt say you can date yet..now you can ask your dad…well you can say this
dad..(boy’s name) asked me out today…how do you feel about me dating now that i am 15 about to turn 16???
then he will say either he doesnt feel comfortable or he says that ur old enough..
whatever his answer is do not be hype..for example when he says NO dont act like a baby and say why not..and start begging..do not do that..just respect his wishes and wait until he says its ok…its better to respect ur father’s wishes rather than ignore it and go dating behind his back…he will find out. and when he do you will not be forgiven…
and if he does say yes..say thanks and tell him, reassure him that you will not do anything to disrepect yourself and the family, especially him…and give him a hug and kiss
now u go into ur room and be all hype!!! lol –and call all your friends…lol and then call the boy and let him know where and when to meet up.
i hope my advice is helpful…
the writer, 1. October 2008, 23:48
Wait until someone asks you and go to your dad and say, “Dad, so and so asked me to go out this Friday.”
TinTin or Lani or Josie, 4. October 2008, 19:21
“dad when can i start dating?”
lolz but he will tell u not till u are married or sonething like that…haha thats how most dads are trust me…
=]
Alex G, 8. October 2008, 0:07
There are several things to take into consideration before you ask your dad. For example, is he strict or lenient, does he make decisions based on reason, or do emotions cloud his judgement, etc. I suggest before you ask him about dating, try to picture how he would react. Preparation!
Second of all, you don’t want to just throw the question out there, as you don’t want to get a “no” for an answer. You’re almost 16 years old, of course you’re gonna want to date someone (whether your parents want you to or not). Thus, you have to ask the question in such a way as to nudge your dad towards a “yes, you can start dating now”.
The best way to get someone to agree to something is to make sure that their interest is involved as well. For example, I’m sure if he’s a good dad he would like you to find a good guy (i.e. useful, respectful, what a parent would want for a daughter), so you gotta use that! Approach him with something like:
“Dad, there’s this one boy in school I kind of like”. If you’re dad’s really protective, you can say “I was wondering if I could invite him over for dinner sometime”. Parents love that line.. If you don’t want him to meet your parents though, just ask:
“Dad, I was wondering when you would allow me to start dating” If he starts asking why, or saying no, explain to him that you’re old enough and smart enough to try dating.
Most importantly, be calm and confident! If he sees that you’re serious and mature about the question, then he will understand (on some level) that it is impossible to convince you otherwise, because you are your own person.
souldoctor, 11. October 2008, 7:31
Whenever you can get a personal moment with him, ask him. You can even use the same reasons you gave in your question. Yes, there are some fathers who will always see their daughters as their little girls, and they will be over-protective; but on the other side of the coin, there are those dads who are proud when they start seeing their daughters mature into young women. Those dads will be protective, too, but they will certainly give their daughters the room they need to grow. In the end, all fathers understand their children will grow and become interested in dating and falling in love. He knows your day is coming, and chances are he’s already given it much thought. Just ask him.
Elo27, 14. October 2008, 12:19
This is the best way to ask but you must follow every step
1. fix your face with a pleasant smile
2. find Dad
3. go stand in front of him but not to close
NOW THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PART
YOU READY ( now you must remember to say that you must say Thank you and I love you!
4. say “Dad when can I start dating?”
Briana, 17. October 2008, 6:03
Um.. Well… I’d just say “dad wen can I start dating?” OR a better aproach would be if someone asks you on a date ask permision to go… if your just wandering about a boyfriend your still young so a boyfriend to you has a completely different deffinition in the adult world so dont sweat it. If you find someone that you love then it’ll be time to talk to your dad. I dont think you should worry about things like this. But if you HAVE to say something to your dad then just talk to him and ask him if you had a bf what his rules and feelings would be. Good Luck!
dizzylilsailor, 17. October 2008, 16:26
When you are ready to start dating, and you are asked out by a guy that you like, pull your dad aside and say, “Dad, I’ve met someone that i really like and would like to date him…I would like for you to meet him as well so you can get to know him.” Introducing your boyfriend to your parents might seem a little embarrassing, but you will be amazed at what parents will do when you take initiative like that. You will be sending the signal that you are responsible and you will earn respect and trust from your parents.
Don’t mention it until it happens…there’s no need to make your dad go crazy until then lol.
jasmine g, 19. October 2008, 21:11
you do not ask your parents wen you can start dating thats fricking sad you just do it and then go dad i have a boyfriend holy shit 15 and having to ask permission is baaaaaad xx
omorris1978, 25. October 2008, 2:12
Speak to your parents about dating. See when they feel it would be appropriate. I would think at your age it should be fine. Just tell your dad that you need to speak with him. Start the conversation off with wondering when you can date. Ask them what types of things they did on dates when they were young. Ask them lots of questions about how they want you to behave, and what is going to be expected from you while you are dating. Ask things like; curfews, places you can go like the movies and bowling.
KittyKat, 25. October 2008, 15:51
15 is definably old enough to start dating. On the first date try and go on a double date that way you’re just hanging out with friends. If it’s just you and a boy just tell your dad a boy asked you out. Try to mention his good qualities Aka good grades well groomed good manners you get the picture if you starts freaking out explain that you could of sneaked out with out asking and you know people that started dating at 12. (Not me but I’m sure you do loads of people at me school started at 12) Hope I helped and have fun!
lear, 26. October 2008, 15:55
i think depend of your dad…He should feeling you are very responsable with your life, understand?? good luck
sorry my english isnt good
Vj, 26. October 2008, 23:53
*Wait till sm/one actually asks u out !!!!!
Then, u can gently break the news to him !!!
“Dad, when can I start dating?”
any good dad won’t want you dating even when you are.
Casually suggest to your dad you think someone will be asking you out soon… See how he responds.
The sooner the better.
More than likey he’ll tell you.. I’m not sure, but my mother had talked to me about it a while back.
When he starts a convo about relationships you can ask him something like, “Do you think I’m old enough to date?”
“dad im getting a little older now and im starting to get a bit curious about dating. not that i want to date or have anyone in mind but i just wanted to know when you think the appropriate age is for me to start? dont worry i will always be your little girl :)”
just like that
ether wait until some one else asks or bring up the you met some one that was cool and that u want to go to the movies with him…
It sounds like you are of age now. Dad probably won’t like it until after you’re 30. I would ask your mom and she can relay the info or just say that you are going on a “group” date and see how he responds.
just start dating and introduce him to your first boyfriend..he’ll get the message because face it..no dad is EVER ready for his daughter to date.
You will always be your daddy’s first little girl. Just ask him when the situation arises, but do not ask him until then. If the guy really cares he will have no problem meeting your dad.
Just tell your dad that you will wash his car. It’ll work. No man will pass that up. Then you will have a great chance of dating.
This question is not that hard. I’m allowed to date when im 15 and three quarters. I asked when I was 11. Just ask him. What’s the worst that can happen.
I would ask him straight out. Fathers like it when you are COMPLETELY honest. He will know that you are interested in starting to date, so he will give the best advice possible, knowing that you trust him by asking him upfront.
So just ask him outright. No beating around the bush or asking him in indirect manners.
Just say. “Hey dad, If I was asked out on a date, would you let me go?” and see what his response would be.
“Dad, at what age do you feel that it would be appropiate for me to start being involved with someone of the opposite sex?”(or same sex, if you go that way!)
or
“Dad, when can I start dating? There is this guy i know, and I think he might ask me out.”
formal and mature, or casual and almost sarcastic…either is sure to get an answer out of him. If that doesnt work, resort to bribery.
Good Luck
I would suggest that you do it while there are no interruptions and somewhere quiet. You could start by explaining that you are getting older and think that you are ready to start dating , then ask how he feels about it.
Don’t waste your time — believe it or not, your dad is right. Dating/men at this point in your life (although other girls around you think it’s #1) is an absolute WASTE of your time, energy, thoughts & hopes. Want immediate proof — just check out all the women, single mothers, moms scoping teen boys, etc. right on here, on Yahoo Answers everyday.. that’s what ultimately happens to 15yr girls that are not focused and don’t achieve… they’re unhappy and troll the internet all day (even if they’re married, of course).
Best advice: stay friends with boys, while reading & writing & studying 10x as hard as you do now.. because as you excel later on (and you will, if you get your priorities straight) the guys will line UP for you, believe me. There’s NOTHING more attractive than a women that knows what she’s going, is well-educated and wants to run/start a family (that has a deep sense of family, thanks to HER father, etc.).
Now is the time…BEFORE you have someone you want to date. Don’t ask him during the ball game or the evening news. Ask for a little Father/Daughter time (baking him cookies and having some ice cold milk might break the ice). Ask him what his goals are for you when you start dating. Ask his opinion on dating. Ask him what type of boys he would choose for you.
The point is…make sure he knows his approval is important and that you want him to be a part of your life as you make the important choices that come with maturity. It will make all the difference in the world!
Just ask to talk to him alone, chances are you will get a better reaction if its not with everyone else around and when he just walks in the door or something. Then just say it, tell him you will be responsible, and make it sincere. And if he says no, don’t blow up, express your feelings maturely and he may change his mind. And my husband and I have already agreed 16 for our girls, I may let them a couple months early like you are. Just be honest and don’t get bratty about it.
just wait til some one askes no reason to piss him off if you don’t need to and rush things….if you already have the date he can’t really make your cancel it and if he trys cry, crying always worked for me against daddie lol
Dad…how do you feel about me dating? I think I am old enough to date now. I am responsible (dont know if you are) and I will not do anything to disrespect you, the family or myself…..
Also you have to think about the way your father talks about you being with a boy…for example when there are other boys around does he pull you away from the boys to come closer to him or does he let you be near the boys..that way you can see whether or not your dad is comfortable with you being around boys…also another thing is whatever you do, do not disrepect yourself in anyway…meaning that because people (your friends) all have boyfriends doesnt mean you need to have one either..that is up to you..and dont make yourself seem cheap..meaning dont throw yourself at everyone that is near you…
Also
when that boy (you think is about to ask you out soon)….finally ask you out..let him know that you are going to have to think about it…dont say yes right away when you know that your dad didnt say you can date yet..now you can ask your dad…well you can say this
dad..(boy’s name) asked me out today…how do you feel about me dating now that i am 15 about to turn 16???
then he will say either he doesnt feel comfortable or he says that ur old enough..
whatever his answer is do not be hype..for example when he says NO dont act like a baby and say why not..and start begging..do not do that..just respect his wishes and wait until he says its ok…its better to respect ur father’s wishes rather than ignore it and go dating behind his back…he will find out. and when he do you will not be forgiven…
and if he does say yes..say thanks and tell him, reassure him that you will not do anything to disrepect yourself and the family, especially him…and give him a hug and kiss
now u go into ur room and be all hype!!! lol –and call all your friends…lol and then call the boy and let him know where and when to meet up.
i hope my advice is helpful…
Wait until someone asks you and go to your dad and say, “Dad, so and so asked me to go out this Friday.”
“dad when can i start dating?”
lolz but he will tell u not till u are married or sonething like that…haha thats how most dads are trust me…
=]
There are several things to take into consideration before you ask your dad. For example, is he strict or lenient, does he make decisions based on reason, or do emotions cloud his judgement, etc. I suggest before you ask him about dating, try to picture how he would react. Preparation!
Second of all, you don’t want to just throw the question out there, as you don’t want to get a “no” for an answer. You’re almost 16 years old, of course you’re gonna want to date someone (whether your parents want you to or not). Thus, you have to ask the question in such a way as to nudge your dad towards a “yes, you can start dating now”.
The best way to get someone to agree to something is to make sure that their interest is involved as well. For example, I’m sure if he’s a good dad he would like you to find a good guy (i.e. useful, respectful, what a parent would want for a daughter), so you gotta use that! Approach him with something like:
“Dad, there’s this one boy in school I kind of like”. If you’re dad’s really protective, you can say “I was wondering if I could invite him over for dinner sometime”. Parents love that line.. If you don’t want him to meet your parents though, just ask:
“Dad, I was wondering when you would allow me to start dating” If he starts asking why, or saying no, explain to him that you’re old enough and smart enough to try dating.
Most importantly, be calm and confident! If he sees that you’re serious and mature about the question, then he will understand (on some level) that it is impossible to convince you otherwise, because you are your own person.
Whenever you can get a personal moment with him, ask him. You can even use the same reasons you gave in your question. Yes, there are some fathers who will always see their daughters as their little girls, and they will be over-protective; but on the other side of the coin, there are those dads who are proud when they start seeing their daughters mature into young women. Those dads will be protective, too, but they will certainly give their daughters the room they need to grow. In the end, all fathers understand their children will grow and become interested in dating and falling in love. He knows your day is coming, and chances are he’s already given it much thought. Just ask him.
This is the best way to ask but you must follow every step
1. fix your face with a pleasant smile
2. find Dad
3. go stand in front of him but not to close
NOW THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PART
YOU READY ( now you must remember to say that you must say Thank you and I love you!
4. say “Dad when can I start dating?”
Um.. Well… I’d just say “dad wen can I start dating?” OR a better aproach would be if someone asks you on a date ask permision to go… if your just wandering about a boyfriend your still young so a boyfriend to you has a completely different deffinition in the adult world so dont sweat it. If you find someone that you love then it’ll be time to talk to your dad. I dont think you should worry about things like this. But if you HAVE to say something to your dad then just talk to him and ask him if you had a bf what his rules and feelings would be. Good Luck!
When you are ready to start dating, and you are asked out by a guy that you like, pull your dad aside and say, “Dad, I’ve met someone that i really like and would like to date him…I would like for you to meet him as well so you can get to know him.” Introducing your boyfriend to your parents might seem a little embarrassing, but you will be amazed at what parents will do when you take initiative like that. You will be sending the signal that you are responsible and you will earn respect and trust from your parents.
Don’t mention it until it happens…there’s no need to make your dad go crazy until then lol.
you do not ask your parents wen you can start dating thats fricking sad you just do it and then go dad i have a boyfriend holy shit 15 and having to ask permission is baaaaaad xx
Speak to your parents about dating. See when they feel it would be appropriate. I would think at your age it should be fine. Just tell your dad that you need to speak with him. Start the conversation off with wondering when you can date. Ask them what types of things they did on dates when they were young. Ask them lots of questions about how they want you to behave, and what is going to be expected from you while you are dating. Ask things like; curfews, places you can go like the movies and bowling.
15 is definably old enough to start dating. On the first date try and go on a double date that way you’re just hanging out with friends. If it’s just you and a boy just tell your dad a boy asked you out. Try to mention his good qualities Aka good grades well groomed good manners you get the picture if you starts freaking out explain that you could of sneaked out with out asking and you know people that started dating at 12. (Not me but I’m sure you do loads of people at me school started at 12) Hope I helped and have fun!
i think depend of your dad…He should feeling you are very responsable with your life, understand?? good luck
sorry my english isnt good
*Wait till sm/one actually asks u out !!!!!
Then, u can gently break the news to him !!!