How can I tell if my daughter is dating her best guy friend?

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Lada O asked:


She mentions him a lot but never calls him anything more than a friend. She goes for walks with him in the creek, and plays basketball and goes roller blading with him for hours on end and he calls her often. She’s shy about this kind of this so I could easily see her not telling me. HELP!!! R they dating?
she is 13 and so is he

20 comments:

  1. sushimaven1, 8. June 2008, 12:27

    ask her! how old is she?

     
  2. camrian_goodman, 9. June 2008, 12:38

    theres a possibility that they’re more than friends but i dnt think that theyre more than friends

     
  3. jcraig, 11. June 2008, 3:47

    I’m really not sure. That is a hard question. Try asking your daughter and if she says no, the next time you see her guy friend talk to him for a little bit and then ask so are you and my daughter dating? See what he says.

     
  4. Melissa, 12. June 2008, 21:43

    well that depends on how old ur daughter is and how interested she is in dating boys. it very well could be just her very best friend. my best friend is a guy and we do everything together. id say you should just talk to her about it. make sure that she also knows about what not to do in a relationship if she is young like sex, kissing and, all that stuff make her aware.

    Merry Christmas

     
  5. s p, 16. June 2008, 1:29

    asmuch as you want to be mother and protect her forever asnd ever, wake up and realize you cant …its a fine line, ive got a son myself..if you be overbearing, she wont talk to you at all….just try to keep open dialoge going and DONT be judgemental, even when you see her doing soing something you can easily fix… if shes not into drugs, then let her make her own mistakes… just keep the dialog open…

     
  6. Mae, 17. June 2008, 7:53

    It sounds like they are but who knows? They might just be best friends. I just recently started to date my best guy friend and I didn’t tell my parents. My sister eventually told them. So even if she is it is better off with someone that she knows and you possibly know than some random guy.

     
  7. room_cat_smudge, 17. June 2008, 23:58

    Um c’mon there just good friends I’m one year older then your daughter and I have a good guy friend we hang out and chill loads.But I only think of him as a friend nothing else.I think many girls have guy friends and never think of them as boyfriends it would be we rid it’s like being with a bother.

     
  8. Calculus, 20. June 2008, 0:22

    They probably are dating and you will need to tell her that there is nothing wroing with that and that you are there for her at all times should she need you.

     
  9. XOXO sAsSy_SiNgEr XOXO, 22. June 2008, 5:22

    Ok, i’m in the same situation, i have a great guy friend, and i love him like a brother. we can each other all the time, play soccer, basketball, lots of sport, especially because i teach him soccer moves while he teaches me bball. This season i’m gonna teach him how to ski. Anyway, I’m trying to figure out if i like him more than that, more than a friend, i can deffinately see myself getting serious with him, but my friend has a crush on him, and she’s my BFF. Anyway, i think, that if she’s 13, she should be given some leeway, but you should also make sure that you are very open with her about these things, to make sure that you guys don’t get too far apart. it’s a very difficult stage, as i can speak form present experience, and i feel like i want these things between us to be private, belonging only to us, but i also want to be open about it with the people that are close to me. Plus, if she’s shy, i’m sure she’s relatively embarrassed. It’s a really hard stage. Best of Luck!

     
  10. =], 22. June 2008, 16:39

    i’m not sure….. but i have a best friend who is a guy and im 16, and we do the same things, but i have no interest for him like that at all… so this doesnt necassarly mean they are…. maybe just ask her if she has a boyfriend… and if she says no (since she is shy), tell her that you DO allow it if she wants one (depending if you do or not)…. and maybe she will be more likely opening up to you since you approve of this touchy subject… just try to make her more comfortable talking about these kinds of things.

     
  11. greek_myth, 25. June 2008, 23:56

    i started goin out with ma best friend some time ago as well. we were really good friends for some time and we did everything together. it was after he started showing me that he wants to be ‘more than friend” with me that i realized i liked him too. now im very happy with him.well ur daughter’s guy seems like a good person so even if she’s going out with him, there’s nothing to worry about. my mom stil thinks that we are just best friends and is very suspicious about us. but every time she asks me whether we’r going out i say “no”. so ask you’r daughter first. but even if she says no she could be going out with him. but this doest mean that u have to think she’s lying when she says no. mayb she isnt. even if she lies im sure she’l have a very good reason for that. for example u may b very strict when it comes to those matters. im sure u are because otherwise u wouldnt post a ques like this on the web! so be very friendly with her first and get her to trust youand then ask.ur daughter is more likely to open up to u when url are close. and since he is her best friend he knows almost everything about her and will keep her happy. as for asking the guy….i don’t think it’l be a good idea. just ask if he’s friendly with you. otherwise it’l jst scare him away. just bcos she keeps talkin bout him and doin stuff with him doesnt mean that she IS going out with him. mayb they are just good friends. so just chill. after all a 13 year old does need a bit of freedom u know.

     
  12. amy, 26. June 2008, 20:20

    its normal to have a guy friend as a normal friend
    they might not think of each other as boy and girl friend
    they just like hanging with each other

     
  13. Princess Rascal Flatts, 30. June 2008, 6:35

    I have the same problem only I’m the daughter. What does it matter as long as there not making out and stuff.

     
  14. lj, 1. July 2008, 14:45

    when he calls your house at 2 am and asks to talk to your daughter

     
  15. ML, 2. July 2008, 11:49

    She’s growing up. She’s starting to like guys and she may be dating him…so what. If she wants 2 tell u she will in her own time!

    ~ML

     
  16. iheartmykitties!, 5. July 2008, 20:40

    Let her tell u! its the best way to go she’ll tell you ( if she is going out with him ) when she’s ready, don’t worry! Happy Holidays

     
  17. jersey_689, 7. July 2008, 14:11

    alrite well… im sixteen and i have a really close guy friend like that too
    we hang out alot and everyone at my school assumes we are going out.. we arent
    the only way to tell is to let her kno its ok with u and she should just tell u cuz u are curious.. shes not goin to tell u if she feels shes goin to get into trouble.. it is possible fe a guy and girl to just be friends… and shes only 13

     
  18. alyssa_060, 8. July 2008, 17:14

    I’m in the same situation, only I’m the daughter. I’ve had the same best guy friend since I was seven (now near 16) and a few years back we realized that there is more than just friendship. We bonded very close as friends first, so we’re still able to act like crazy teenagers, yet we still have a bond and an understand that we’re not going to hurt each other, and we do love each other. If you know the boy, your opinion of him may be causing you to worry. But it is also very possible that they are just friends. Just give her some time, she’ll come around! It took me nearly two months to pluck up the courage to tell my mom that my best guy friend and I were together (and even when I did tell her I ended up getting sick because I was so nervous!). But like I said, just give her some time. It is difficult for us daughters to tell our moms these things! E-mail if you need more help! I’m an expert at this topic! ;) Good luck and Merry Christmas! -Alyssa

     
  19. cstinkerbell6969, 12. July 2008, 3:05

    It sure sounds like they r dasting. BUT like u said she is kinda shy so she will tell you when she is ready Im sure! Some teens like to keep these things to themselves. My 16 year old son and I are very close and he tell me everything- more than I even want to know! lol It depends on each kid! She may be in this new relationship and isnt even quite sure what it it is herself. Let her discover her feelings for him and his for her and who knows where it may lead! Just let her know u r always there for her if she wants to talk about anything!

     
  20. whtevrdork xo, 13. July 2008, 19:14

    look i know alot about those kinds of things more than likely she is not. because i hang out with my one guy friend all the time.. everyone (all my family) thinks he is my boyfriend and he isnt. ive tried to tell them that we are friends but they don’t believe me but yeah me and him talk and hang out alot. but she probably is NOT dating him.